Hypnobirthing & Postnatal Support
Birth Stories
Nell’s Home Birth Nell was my third and toughest pregnancy due to such sever pelvic pain, I did not take the time and energy to properly heal myself after each of my previous pregnancies and my body was feeling the affects of this. By the final week of my pregnancy, my baby had moved so low into my pelvis that I found even the simplest task difficult and so needed someone with me at all times to help me care for my other children.     On the Saturday morning I woke up and noticed I was having some bloody show coming away. This continued all the way up until labour started on the Sunday evening. In my previous pregnancies I had experienced start-stop contractions for over a week before my labours established, but this pregnancy had been so different I wasn't sure what to expect. I had been feeling that labour was near but had not had any of the usual experiences so wasn't sure what to expect. On Sunday I had messages from more than one friend asking if I was okay, it seemed they were sensing something with their womanly intuition.     I put my two sons to bed on Sunday night and as they fell asleep I starting experiencing unmistakeable contractions. I messaged my husband at work to let him know that I thought things were starting. I went to bed as normal and managed to sleep for an hour and a half. When I woke up for the toilet I found the contractions were coming regularly and I could not longer sleep through them. I watched some tv but I was feeling quite anxious and alone and the contractions were becoming more intense, so I decided I needed my husband there. We had to be sure that labour was really establishing before calling him home and kick-starting his paternity leave because we were both conscious of my previous long-lasting pre-labours.     My husband arrived home at 3am and we watched tv together, I was feeling a lot calmer and happier now but then my younger son woke up at 4:30am and my husband fell asleep putting him back to bed. My contractions slowed right down after my son had woken up so I decided to let my husband rest – he was home now and that was enough for me to feel happy and calm.     I woke him at 8am to take over with my sons so I could go back to bed. I only managed to sleep for a couple of hours and when I woke, I decided to have a bath as my contractions seemed to have picked up again. I felt the need to be clean and fresh for my labour and birth.     I quickly found that I wasn't enjoying my bath, I had tried a birth pool in my previous labour and not enjoyed it at all. I had meant to join my family downstairs and carry on with the day whilst experiencing early labour, however I quickly became aware of my instincts – I needed to stay upstairs, build a nest and be 'with' my contractions now.     I sent for my mum and sister to come and look after our sons so my husband could be with me. I had decided early on that I wanted my husband to be with me and not responsible for anything else during this labour after our last home birth when he had been kept busy by the birth pool and our eldest son.     By 1pm we were happily closeted upstairs in our bedroom where I felt the most comfortable. We used LED tea lights, an aromatherapy oil diffuser, all my favourite fluffy blankets and pillow to build a nest in our bed and had the Colour and Calmness hypnobirthing CD playing  We let the midwives know that labour had started but that we didn't need them to come yet. We had the reassuring sounds of our children laughing and being well cared for downstairs, which helped me relax and allowed my consciousness to turn inwards.     I loved having my husband completely focussed on me and using the figure of eight massage technique on my lower back during each contraction whilst I leant on his legs on all fours using the 4 and 8 breathing technique. I was surprised at the difference it made to have such undivided attention from the person I feel safest with and the massaging was amazingly beneficial.     At around 3/3:30 I decided that we could phone the midwives because I was sure my labour was in full swing. By the time they arrived at 4pm I was experiencing cluster contractions, where I would have three back to back before a break, but I found this quite a peaceful point in my labour, whereas not long before I had been feeling very curious as to whether I would ask for gas and air once the midwives arrived. I had wanted it all through my second son's labour but he was born before they arrived.     I realised soon after the cluster contractions began that I was near to meeting my baby, knowing that they can happen right before transition. I felt no need at all for any pain management at any point in my labour or birth.     I changed positions at this point as my husband's legs were going losing feeling, and leaned against his chest on all fours instead. I noticed that during my out-breath I was beginning to feel slight urges to bear down. I also felt a moment of panic and recognised this as the moment of transition, where my cervix was fully open, and then my waters broke all over the bed (missing the towels!). This was the part of my labour with my second child that I enjoyed the most because my contractions had grown further apart and I experienced a period of 'rest and be thankful', whereas throughout my labours my contractions always come very close together.         During Nell's birth, this didn't happen and I went straight to bearing down.     She was born within a few contractions at 4:40pm, I used only my breathing to assist my body in birthing her. I didn't tear this time, I think because of being on all fours rather than on my side, but I did get a graze and a small nick because she came into the world with her hand under her chin.     My midwife passed her through my legs to me and I put her straight to my chest. My eldest son was able to get his wish of being the one to cut the cord after the placenta was born and we used our umbilical cord tie. Nell's was my last birth and I couldn't have asked for a more positive or empowering experience. I would like to add a special thanks to my husband for being a powerful birth protector, to my mum and sister for caring for my children so I could relax, and for my cat, Michael, who was my silent birth partner right to the end where he made a hasty exit at Nell's first cry. To any expectant parent reading my story I want to say ~ believe completely in your instincts, listen to them always ~ never put your health and well-being last, self-care is so important and it is healthy for your children to see that too ~ and finally, know how and where to seek support, ask questions, and see the whole experience of becoming a parent (whether for the first or tenth time) as the important and life changing experience that it is. Treat your journey with care and attention physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Own your birth decisions and find the route to empowerment in whatever way resonates with YOU.
photo by Jennie Corcoran
Hypnobirthing & Postnatal Support
Birth Stories
Nell’s Home Birth Nell was my third and toughest pregnancy due to such severe pelvic pain, I did not take the time and energy to properly heal myself after each of my previous pregnancies and my body was feeling the affects of this. By the final week of my pregnancy, my baby had moved so low into my pelvis that I found even the simplest task difficult and so needed someone with me at all times to help me care for my other children.     On the Saturday morning I woke up and noticed I was having some bloody show coming away. This continued all the way up until labour started on the Sunday evening. In my previous pregnancies I had experienced start-stop contractions for over a week before my labours established, but this pregnancy had been so different I wasn't sure what to expect. I had been feeling that labour was near but had not had any of the usual experiences so wasn't sure what to expect. On Sunday I had messages from more than one friend asking if I was okay, it seemed they were sensing something with their womanly intuition.     I put my two sons to bed on Sunday night and as they fell asleep I starting experiencing unmistakeable contractions. I messaged my husband at work to let him know that I thought things were starting. I went to bed as normal and managed to sleep for an hour and a half. When I woke up for the toilet I found the contractions were coming regularly and I could not longer sleep through them. I watched some tv but I was feeling quite anxious and alone and the contractions were becoming more intense, so I decided I needed my husband there. We had to be sure that labour was really establishing before calling him home and kick-starting his paternity leave because we were both conscious of my previous long-lasting pre-labours.     My husband arrived home at 3am and we watched tv together, I was feeling a lot calmer and happier now but then my younger son woke up at 4:30am and my husband fell asleep putting him back to bed. My contractions slowed right down after my son had woken up so I decided to let my husband rest – he was home now and that was enough for me to feel happy and calm.     I woke him at 8am to take over with my sons so I could go back to bed. I only managed to sleep for a couple of hours and when I woke, I decided to have a bath as my contractions seemed to have picked up again. I felt the need to be clean and fresh for my labour and birth.     I quickly found that I wasn't enjoying my bath, I had tried a birth pool in my previous labour and not enjoyed it at all. I had meant to join my family downstairs and carry on with the day whilst experiencing early labour, however I quickly became aware of my instincts – I needed to stay upstairs, build a nest and be 'with' my contractions now.     I sent for my mum and sister to come and look after our sons so my husband could be with me. I had decided early on that I wanted my husband to be with me and not responsible for anything else during this labour after our last home birth when he had been kept busy by the birth pool and our eldest son.     By 1pm we were happily closeted upstairs in our bedroom where I felt the most comfortable. We used LED tea lights, an aromatherapy oil diffuser, all my favourite fluffy blankets and pillow to build a nest in our bed and had the Colour and Calmness hypnobirthing CD playing  We let the midwives know that labour had started but that we didn't need them to come yet. We had the reassuring sounds of our children laughing and being well cared for downstairs, which helped me relax and allowed my consciousness to turn inwards.     I loved having my husband completely focussed on me and using the figure of eight massage technique on my lower back during each contraction whilst I leant on his legs on all fours using the 4 and 8 breathing technique. I was surprised at the difference it made to have such undivided attention from the person I feel safest with and the massaging was amazingly beneficial.     At around 3/3:30 I decided that we could phone the midwives because I was sure my labour was in full swing. By the time they arrived at 4pm I was experiencing cluster contractions, where I would have three back to back before a break, but I found this quite a peaceful point in my labour, whereas not long before I had been feeling very curious as to whether I would ask for gas and air once the midwives arrived. I had wanted it all through my second son's labour but he was born before they arrived.     I realised soon after the cluster contractions began that I was near to meeting my baby, knowing that they can happen right before transition. I felt no need at all for any pain management at any point in my labour or birth.     I changed positions at this point as my husband's legs were going losing feeling, and leaned against his chest on all fours instead. I noticed that during my out-breath I was beginning to feel slight urges to bear down. I also felt a moment of panic and recognised this as the moment of transition, where my cervix was fully open, and then my waters broke all over the bed (missing the towels!). This was the part of my labour with my second child that I enjoyed the most because my contractions had grown further apart and I experienced a period of 'rest and be thankful', whereas throughout my labours my contractions always come very close together.         During Nell's birth, this didn't happen and I went straight to bearing down.     She was born within a few contractions at 4:40pm, I used only my breathing to assist my body in birthing her. I didn't tear this time, I think because of being on all fours rather than on my side, but I did get a graze and a small nick because she came into the world with her hand under her chin.     My midwife passed her through my legs to me and I put her straight to my chest. My eldest son was able to get his wish of being the one to cut the cord after the placenta was born and we used our umbilical cord tie. Nell's was my last birth and I couldn't have asked for a more positive or empowering experience. I would like to add a special thanks to my husband for being a powerful birth protector, to my mum and sister for caring for my children so I could relax, and for my cat, Michael, who was my silent birth partner right to the end where he made a hasty exit at Nell's first cry. To any expectant parent reading my story I want to say ~ believe completely in your instincts, listen to them always ~ never put your health and well-being last, self- care is so important and it is healthy for your children to see that too ~ and finally, know how and where to seek support, ask questions, and see the whole experience of becoming a parent (whether for the first or tenth time) as the important and life changing experience that it is. Treat your journey with care and attention physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Own your birth decisions and find the route to empowerment in whatever way resonates with YOU.